Attachment Styles
Learn about attachment theory, understand the four attachment styles, discover how they develop, and explore practical tools to build more secure relationships.
What Are the Four Attachment Styles?
Secure Attachment
People with a secure attachment style are generally comfortable with both closeness and independence. They tend to communicate their needs more openly, trust that relationships can withstand conflict, and feel less threatened by normal periods of distance.
Anxious Attachment
People with an anxious attachment style may be especially sensitive to signs of rejection, distance, or changes in a partner’s behaviour. They may crave reassurance, struggle with uncertainty, overanalyse communication, or feel particularly distressed when someone they love pulls away.
Dismissive Avoidant Attachment
Dismissive-avoidant attachment is often associated with a strong need for independence and a tendency to suppress or distance from vulnerable attachment feelings.
Someone with dismissive-avoidant patterns may become uncomfortable with emotional dependence, withdraw when relationships become close, or minimize their own needs.
Fearful Avoidant Attachment
Fearful-avoidant attachment (also known as Disorganized Attachment) can involve a strong desire for closeness alongside an equally strong fear of it.
This can create a confusing push-pull dynamic in which someone seeks connection, becomes overwhelmed by vulnerability, pulls away, and later wants closeness again.
Dismissive Avoidant Attachment
Understanding the signs, triggers, deactivation, and how it affects relationships.
Avoidant Discard
What it is, why it happens, & how to recover from the hurt.
Do Avoidants Come Back?
And why their return isn’t always the happy ending you hoped for.
Fearful Avoidant Attachment
Understanding the signs, triggers, push-pull cycle, and healing.
Signs An Avoidant Is Done With You
How to tell the difference between deactivations, shutdowns, and discards.